Always be on the “lookout” for romantic inspiration. It’s everywhere!

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Romantic Art - The Love Letter - FragonardYou can also turn to the romantic experts, especially when it comes to crafting the perfect love letter. Try gaining your inspiration from famous love letters written by the likes of Beethoven to his “Immortal Beloved” or Napoleon Bonaparte to Josephine.

For those of you who are handy, (or “thumby”) romantic text messages are sure to make your sweetheart smile!

Romance stories and romance novels can be full of useful romance filled words and passages. Sometimes just reading a certain scenario or section out loud to your lover (or even to yourself!) can elicit a delightful, if not sensuous response! I know I have my favorites!

We all have favorite romantic love songs whose music and lyrics make our little hearts beat faster and put that dance in our steps. The poetry of romantic love song lyrics is an abundant source of romantic phrases. Surround yourself with romantic music.

Another useful source for romantic words is romantic movie quotes. There is something about the remembered visual effect along with the romantic words that packs a powerful romantic punch.

Make a habit of watching romantic movies with your mate on a regular basis. There’s gold in them thar hills!

So many romantic things to say, so little time!

Romancing with Words: Romantic Words to the Rescue!

Expressing Your Love Using Romantic Words

Romantic Words of Love Discover the joy of writing romantic words of love! Browse our romantic love letters to copy, engagement letter samples and famous love letters along with romantic love quotes collection, romantic love notes, and all sorts of other romantic words of love and romantic sayings.

Romantic Art - The Love LetterUsing romantic words and phrases is one of the most, well romantic ways to tell your sweetheart how much they mean to you. Few things will warm their hearts more than receiving a thoughtfully crafted romantic love letter or chancing upon a sweet little love note tucked away for them to find.

Your time and effort alone speak volumes to your beloved recipient.

There are many ways to incorporate loving words into your love relationship.

One of my personal favorites is the use of romantic love quotes in my emails to D. Sometimes they will spark a volley of romantic (and often suggestive) emails back and forth. It’s funny that we email each other, working together as we do!

This loving banter helps keep a connection and a spark flowing between us.

Love and romantic sayings can take the form of romantic love poems written by you or “borrowed” from a poet that you admire. As long as you are not trying to publish your plagiarism, it should be perfectly fine to use romantic poems in this way..

Romantic words of love can be found, copied and saved for later use. I’ve been known to stand in the greeting card aisle jotting down some new romantic lines and the perfect “turn of phrase” so I can use it later to create my own romantic card or to add to my romantic emails.

Practice Changing Your Perspective

The more familiar you are with how it feels to successfully shift your focus from something negative to a more positive outlook ; the more often you will be able to keep yourself in the good feeling places.

IMPORTANT!

Do not underestimate the value of this habit when it comes to your love relationship!

Try practicing on things that you don’t care too much about: the granny in the fast lane, the unbelievably slow internet connection, the weather.

  • Practice changing your perspective.
  • Practice finding things to appreciate.
  • Practice shrugging off minor annoyances.
  • Practice laughing unconditionally at every opportunity.
  • Practice finding the things in any person or situation that make you feel good and really get acquainted with those thoughts and feelings.

Collect them, if you will.

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Make a point of becoming familiar with your joys and you WILL experience more of them!

How to do this in your love relationship:

If one part of your relationship is displeasing, you know it is time to focus on another part of it.

Trust in the certainty that all is well between you and your beloved and that your relationship is growing and unfolding perfectly.

Feel the magic of optimism. Pessimism and focus-on-what-is-not-wanted yields nothing of any value to the flowering of your romantic relationship.

Soon you will notice that you must be living a charmed life; lights turn green, parking places materialize, you meet the friendliest people…

Oh yeah…AND your mate just can’t stop kissing you!

The Power of Emotions



Our emotions are indicators of the kinds of things that we are focusing upon.

When we FEEL good, happy, joyful, positive, exhilarated, giddy, fabulous, it’s because we are focusing on things that please us.

We resonate, approve, appreciate, love what we see and our emotions confirm it for us.

We all know how terrific that feels. We want to feel that way all the time!

AND

When we feel bad, resentful, angry, sad, annoyed, negative, grumpy, lousy, it’s because we are focusing on things that displease us.

We judge, fear, disapprove, hate what we see and our emotions confirm it for us.

And it really sucks, doesn’t it?

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Could it really be that simple? Can I actually control the way I feel by what I choose to focus upon? What about other people, special circumstances? What about “fate”?

Focus on what you wish to get more of. Yes, it’s really is that simple!

GOOD NEWS FOR LOVE RELATIONSHIPS!

We get to choose what we focus upon AND how we choose to respond to what we see. If we react to something that we find to be negative; by focusing even harder on it, by complaining about it, by commiserating with our friends about it, it WILL get bigger.
OR

We can react to something we find negative by softening our focus on it, by noticing the positive aspects of it, or by changing our focus entirely to something that pleases us.

(This is not looking at something you find negative and pretending that it’s not negative. This is merely shifting your gaze away from what you find negative and focusing on something you find more pleasing.)

Remember, you get to choose! So BE SELECTIVE!
When you can do this, the negative thing will NOT get bigger and may even begin to go away.

Either way, we have short circuited the downward slide that we sometimes find ourselves on by making this shift. Checking in with our emotions tells us if we have succeeded.

How to create the romance you want

The more focused attention you give your romance (or anything!), the more rampant the growth. This is delightful when the object of your focus is something that you desire!

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Conversely, if you are focusing on the negative aspects, it can make your love relationship rather unpleasant too.

What to do?

If you want to shift what you are experiencing, then you will need to adjust your focus. It is best and infinitely more effective to do this slowly, bit by bit.

Trying to make an extreme change in your viewpoint is likely to be insincere and temporary.

Stop keeping score and stop obsessing over that which you do not like.

A good way to start the positive shift is by trying to find a thought that feels better than the one you have been thinking.

For example: Let’s say that you have been noticing that your mate doesn’t kiss you as often as you might like. The more you notice them not kissing you, the less you are kissed.

Perhaps you’ve mentioned it to them and maybe they have even agreed to try to remember to kiss you more often. But the kisses just aren’t materializing and you REALLY notice the absence of them.

Your focus is effectively creating more of what you do not want.

So you need to come up with a thought that feels better than “My mate never kisses me anymore.”

The progression could go something like this:

  • 1. My mate never kisses me anymore.
  • 2. My mate doesn’t kiss me as often as I’d like.
  • 3. My mate doesn’t kiss me as often as I’d like but they hug me every now and then.
  • 4. My mate hugs me every now and then and sometimes smiles at me when we pass in the hallway.
  • 5. My mate hugs me and usually smiles at me when we pass in the hallway.
  • 6. My mate hugs me and smiles at me. I know my mate cares about me.
  • 7. My unbelievably attractive and caring and devoted mate hugs me, smiles at me, takes out the garbage without being asked, cleans the toilet and brings home chocolate regularly.

Ooops! Slow down! You get the idea…

Being “in love” is good for us.

You read it in books. You watch it in movies. You listen to it in songs.

Love makes the world go ’round. Love is a many splendored thing. All we need is love. Right?

Have you noticed when you are newly in love, just about everything in our lives gets better? Not just our love relationships. Everything!

Why is that?

When we direct most of our attention to feeling the breathless excitement and exhilaration of a new passion, our positive, uplifted outlook can’t help but roll over into the rest of our lives.

The more we focus on everything that is wonderful, the broader and more delicious the effects will be.

When you give your attention to something in your love relationship, be it positive or negative, it will get bigger.

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The more focused attention you give it, the more rampant the growth. This is delightful when the object of your focus is something that you desire!

Ways to Increase Your Romantic Compatibility

Are you just looking for a second chance at romance? Don’t let them slip away!

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A love relationship is like a greenhouse plant, requiring care and proper nourishment to thrive. Without attention it will wither and die. Don’t make the mistake of neglecting your romance!

The way you “see” your beloved is the fuel that feeds your romantic connection and inspires the blossoming of romantic compatibility. I think Marianne Williams says it very well:

“We can always choose to perceive things differently. You can focus on what’s wrong in your life, or you can focus on what’s right.”

Make a point of focusing on what you love about your mate. If it is hard to think of something in the here and now, then dip into your romantic past with them. Allow yourself to feel the feelings of new love, passion and excitement, cozy connection and heartfelt desire. Look at them through your rose-colored (heart shaped!) glasses! Pretty soon they will begin to respond positively to your loving perspective.

This REALLY works! Try it!

When the conditions are right, a well-cared for relationship will yield a lifetime of romantic rewards. And who doesn’t want that?

It is completely up to you to decide just how romantic your love relationship is going to be. Yes, YOU!